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Monday, June 30, 2014

"Man Prayer" - words by Eve Ensler, film by Tony Stroebel

"May i cherish, respect, and love my mother, and may the resonance of that love translate into loving all women and living things."
--Eve Ensler

Patriarchy: An Insidious System!

Patriarchy:  An Insidious System

Question:  "When did doing something "like a girl" become an insult?"  --Always #likeagirl

Question: How insidious is patriarchy?

(a)  "A girl's confidence plummets during puberty [also known as the formative years in a girl's life, and we all know the crucial importance of confidence in attaining your life's goals, thus in becoming more human]!"

(b)  Women, with the same professional skills as men, earn way less money in their jobs, careers, on the average.

(c)  With the gender binary system, women are socialized to 
be the "weaker sex," the "inferior" sex, the "less-human" sex.

(d)  With the gender binary system, men are socialized to be the "strong" sex, the "superior" sex, the "more-human" sex.

(e)  Sexual assaults on women around the world continue to be a major problem facing our women.

(f)  Homophobia keeps patriarchal men trapped inside the "man box," for fear of being treated like we treat our women.

(g)  Patriarchal men are socialized to disconnect from their emotions, feelings, or humanity, for vulnerability is believed to be weakness or "girly."

(h)  If I cannot feel my own emotions as a man, a patriarchal man, then it follows unnaturally, that I cannot identify or empathize with your, the other's emotions, feelings, or humanity.

(i)  1 out 5 women, in the USA, say they have been sexually assaulted sometime in their lives."  --Colin Stokes from "How Movies Teach Manhood"

...more to be added, later on!
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Dowry System: How To Boycott An Insidious System

Knowledge Wisdom Power: How can we boycott Dowry System from Our Society: "One of the steps to minimize gender inequality can be done by boycotting dowry system from the society. How do we define dowry system? Dowr..."


"What are the reasons for the occurrence of dowry system? There are several reasons for the occurrence of dowry system. It is a necessary precondition for marriage that if there is no dowry there will be no marriage which has become a widespread fear. And, as a result the bride's family have to offer good dowry thinking that their daughter would get proper respect and love in her future home. In the society still bride is treated as a price tag, the bigger price the better. We can often see this more in arrange marriages where a man does not marry for love but for wealth. For this man and his family, a woman becomes the ticket as a shortcut to become rich."

"Families with boy as a child take the advantages of their child's marriage by fulfilling their desire of owning things that they can't afford to buy. The girl's parents do not protest against this dowry system because they regard their union as a stepping stone towards higher social status. Instead of boycotting the dowry system, they just motivate other people too for the dowry."

"There is steady rise in dowry crimes which is not good in the society. More and more women are killed everywhere or they are physically and mentally tortured by the boy and his family if they don't get the dowry as they demanded. Dowry as a phenomenon has gone beyond the ritual of marriage."

"How can we boycott dowry system? How can we stop it? It can be minimized if Women get real social, political, financial, and moral support in their fight against system. They have to be empowered so that they can take their decisions about their own life by refusing the dowry system. Women empowerment is must to stop dowry system. If women are empowered, many problems can be solved in a simple and easy ways."

Stonewall: A Civil Rights Movement

45 Years Ago, A Movement Was Born: Why The Stonewall Riots Matter: We remember the Stonewall Riots 45 years later, talking to those who were there and those whom it affected today.


"But as the LGBT community and their allies continue the fight for full equality, today is a cause to look back on the moment that helped pave the road to where we are today."

"There was a time when LGBT people were forced to hide in the shadows, their way of life criminalized – marriage wasn’t even a consideration. Police would raid gay bars (if they weren’t getting paid off by the owners) and arrest people on the spot if they didn’t have identification, or if they were in drag."

"But in 1969, came the biggest moment in the history of the LGBT Civil Rights Movement: the Stonewall Riots in New York City."

"On Saturday, June 28, police raided the Stonewall Inn in New York City’s Greenwich Village. This was routine at the time, but this raid would be like no other before. As police they were lining bar-goers up for inspection, all hell broke loose."

"The riots became national news the next day, and what was just one night of chaos turned into an organized movement with LGBT groups popping up around the city, and soon, around the country."
“To me, Stonewall is an act from people who were tired of being pushed into the shadows of society, taking a stand for their human dignity,” said Susanna Aaron, a volunteer working for Stonewall’s 45th anniversary. “There was a moment of fury which was these riots at this bar but this community turned it into a real political movement with very clear goals.”

"For Autumn Young-Tsan, the Stonewall Riots gave her the legal ability to get married — her whole life, she told us, tearing up."

Saturday, June 28, 2014

"Revealing Ramadan" by Krista Tippett at

"14 Muslims, in their own words, speak about the delights 
and gravity of Islam's holiest month. Through vivid 
memories and light-hearted musings, they reveal the
 richness of Ramadan — as a period of intimacy, and 
of parties; of getting up when the world is quiet 
for breakfast and prayers with one's family; of 
breaking the fast every day after nightfall in 
celebration and prayers with friends and strangers."
--Krista Tippett at
Happy Ramandan, to all my Muslim Googlers!
In the spirit of respect and appreciation for 
the major religions, which have been most beneficial,
 as a whole, to humanity, and continue to be so, 
please listen to this podcast.
It is NOT religion, itself, that has been "hurtful" 
to some, but people, themselves, who, in the name of
 religion, have coopted it to do their "ills."  And 
so those of us, who are less-human, less empathetic,
 fearful of NOT being loved, accepted, thus have
 manipulated part(s) of religion to control our 
external environments.  Religion, though, on the
 whole, remains most important for our species, 
for it gives us the sacred, which we all need 
and can use to bring us together and NOT pull 
us apart, for the sacred offers us a great point
 of commonality to start the conversation, which 
can lead to understanding, respect, and ultimately
 peace, which we all seek and need in our own everyday lives.

"Ibrahim Al-Marashi: I was studying as an undergrad 
at UCLA, and I remember that, during the day,
 a fellow Iraqi-Muslim who doesn't practice 
the faith, she knew I was fasting, yet she was 
still eating an ice cream in my face to kind 
of taunt my practice of my religious belief 
at the university. I remember that moment because
 usually when you think about Muslims, you think
 of this one monolithic block who's engaged in kind
 of these Islamic rituals without any kind of 
deviation, yet I still remember this girl eating
 her Baskin & Robbins ice cream in the classroom.
 At the same time, there was this Jewish person
 in the class, a Jew from Iran. He also had an 
ice cream. It was a very hot day. He knew I was
 fasting and he walked out of the classroom. 
It just goes to show me that, you know, you
 have this kind of image of Judaism and Islam
 locked in this kind of intractable conflict. 
Yet it's those kind of daily moments that here
 is a Jew from Iran more considerate of my religious
 beliefs than a fellow Iraqi-Muslim. That kind 
of reminded me that it doesn't matter what religion
 you are. You could be sensitive to other peoples' beliefs.
I mean, one of the interests I have, particularly living
 in Islamic Spain, is this kind of interplay of this 
kind of harmony in Jewish-Muslim relations as well as
 what the Spanish term the convivencia, the ability
 of Spaniards, Jews, Muslims, and Christians alike to
 live together. This is one of the areas I find 
that's fascinating to research. I often remember that
 Ramadan incident when I'm reading various books
 and sources on the subject."
Once again, Happy Ramadan!
Let us not "throw out the baby with the bath water."  
Let us disregard, and transcend the part(s) of religion
 that have been corrupted and keep the better, best parts
 of the whole, which remain--I am happy 
to report--the greater of the two.  Let's do
 it for our humanity's sake.
With agape,

Friday, June 27, 2014

My Wish Of Love

My Wish Of Love

To disappear into
my lover's 
body and soul
into a circle 
of being
of true love
of Oneness!

Thursday, June 19, 2014

"Checklist Of Cognitive Distortions"

"Checklist of Cognitive Distortions" based on literature and work by David M. Burns, MD
With agape,

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

My Soul's Decrees

My Soul's Decrees

Let my heart remember you
with fond memories 
each night to come.
My arms' muscles to memorize
your warm touches 
with ethos and pathos.

Let my mind like an artist
to paint a thousand tableaus
of us in love true
for centuries to come.

Let my nose to smell
your perfume sweet and 
your natural, feminine scent
after a long day's work
 in the Summer of time.

Let my voice to utter
the I-love-yous till
the end of time and beyond--
in protest and defiance.

Thus, my soul has decreed,
my darling Fab Fabie.

Suns-set, Suns-rise

Suns-set, Suns-rise

My suns-set
when she closes
her eyes, and 
my suns-rise
when she opens
her eyes, then.
my universe
of love true
is within
her eyes' light.

A Garden Of You

A Garden Of You

My Fab Fabie,
A garden of You
Grows inside my heart
 And needs You as 

The Farmer to water
Its lovely flowers
And cultivate the good
And bad to wholeness
Or bountiful harvest
Of our love true.

Monday, June 16, 2014

A Fab's Journey

A Fab's Journey

My heart is on
a  Fab's journey,
for her end is my beginning
and my beginning's her end.

So soulfully entwined are we,
from beginning to end
anew from end to beginning
in circles of light and darkness.

Monday, June 9, 2014

Free Your Will

Free Your Will

Free your will, men,
With wings of wisdom 
And courage!
To migrate beyond
(Emotionally forward)
Our solar system
Where gender binary
As an insidious system
Exists no longer.

Sunday, June 8, 2014

",,,the silence of our friends." --Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

"...the silence of our friends."
Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

"In the end what will hurt most is NOT the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends."
--Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. stand against--with your words, actions, body, heart, and soul--homophobia, patriarchy, misogyny, lesbophobia, transphobia, racism, xenophobia, and all other forms of hatred, which make us, all, less-human, for to hate the other is to hate oneself, truly.

With agape,

She's Fab

She's Fab

he (with a small "h," 
unable to tap into his Larger "H")
 used to "own" Her
In his mind of a weak man
Who tries to control
his outer world, instead
Of his inner being.

She used to allow 
him to believe he was
In ownership of Her inner Womanhood,
For She was trying to survive
An insidious man's world.

But She's Fab;
Suffered through her enslavement
(To wonderful, inner, Womanhood wonderful)
Till Her inner world started
To supplant Her outer's,
Thus driving him to full male madness.

Saturday, June 7, 2014

A Lover's Fear

A Lover's Fear

"Tell me your fears, lover of mine,
and I'll listen, understand and empathize."
She told her lover.

"But tell me your fibs, 
and I'll live in fear of the next one,
till I'll no longer care."
She reprimanded her lover sternly.

An Epiphany #11 (Blind And Unforgiving Systems)

An Epiphany #11
(Blind And Unforgiving Systems)

I believe the reason why we need to have more empathy for human beings in position of external power is:  they are working within/with a human system which is imperfect--the individual human being, though, is always above systems, thus always noble.

By the time a politician, for example, comes into external power, he inherits a system which has been in place long before--centuries before in some cases--he gets elected, and systems, by their man-made nature, are in place to keep the status quo, to keep order, to keep tradition or culture, to keep a linear or circular continuity, which our human brain loves, and interprets as orderly, and as byproduct a false equilibrium and a state of the known is reached--the sun-always-rises-in-the-East syndrome, I call it.

We fear the unknown so much that we are willing to give our human freedom, thus freewill, away to systems to control, and manipulate our lives into a false known series of man-made events, experiences that duplicate and replicate themselves over and over again to give us the illusion of order, continuity, and false safety from any unknowns in this scary universe we inhabit, forlorn, without gods or/and goddesses; therefore, our man-made systems have usurped the throne of an omnipotent, omnipresent goddess, to leave us in the all-too-powerful hands of blind, and unforgiving, man-made systems. 

Systems be NOT proud! Our noble Human Nature shall dethrone you, by-and-by.

Friday, June 6, 2014

"One of the ways God surprises us..." --Rabbi Jonathan Sacks

“One of the ways God surprises us is by letting a Jew or a Christian discover the trace of God's presence in a Buddhist monk or a Sikh tradition of hospitality or the graciousness of Hindu life. You know, don't think we can confine God into our categories. God is bigger than religion.”  Rabbi Jonathan Sacks

Thursday, June 5, 2014

"One Day" by Matisyahu

"One Day" by Matisyahu

"One Day" by Matisyahu

"Jerusalem" by Matisyahu

from ..."Rabbi Jonathan Sacks--The Dignity Of Difference" transcript at with Krista Tippett


from ..."Rabbi Jonathan Sacks--The Dignity Of Difference" transcript at with Krista Tippett

Rabbi Sacks:  Yeah. It seems to me that one of the things we most fear is the stranger. And at most times in human history, most people have lived among people who are mostly pretty much the same as themselves. Today, certainly in Europe and perhaps even in America, walk down the average Main Street and you will encounter in 10 minutes more anthropological diversity than an 18th-century traveler would have encountered in a lifetime.
So you really have this huge problem of diversity. And you then go back and read the Bible and something hits you, which is we're very familiar with the two great commands of love: Love God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your might; love your neighbor as yourself. But the one command reiterated more than any other in the mosaic box — 36 times said the rabbis — is love the stranger for you were once strangers in the land of Egypt. Or to put it in a contemporary way, love the stranger because, to him, you're a stranger. And this sense that we are enlarged by the people who are different from us — we are not threatened by them — that needs cultivating, can be cultivated, and would lead us to see the 21st century as full of blessing, not full of fear.

Rabbi Sacks:  What is the point of being a religious leader if you don't say something that's difficult for people who follow you? You know, you've got to challenge them and be challenged by them. You have to listen when they say, "Chief Rabbi, you're going too far or too fast for us to follow." Then you say, "OK, we'll slow it down, but I want you to come with me." I will not allow myself to be a lone voice within Judaism.

Rabbi Sacks:  I use metaphors. You know, each one may be helpful to some and not to others. One way is just to think, for instance, of biodiversity. The extraordinary thing we now know, thanks to Crick and Watson's discovery of DNA and the decoding of the human and other genomes, is that all life, everything, you know, all the 3 million species of life and plant life — all have the same source. We all come from a single source. Everything that lives has its genetic code written in the same alphabet. Unity creates diversity. So don't think of one God, one truth, one way. Think of one God creating this extraordinary number of ways, the 6,800 languages that are actually spoken. Don't think there's only one language within which we can speak to God.

Rabbi Sacks: The Bible is saying to us the whole time, don't think that God is as simple as you are. He's in places you would never expect him to be. And you know, we lose a bit of that in English translation because, when Moses at the burning bush says to God, "Who are you?" God says to him three words: "Hayah asher hayah." And those words are mistranslated in English as "I am that which I am." But in Hebrew, it means "I will be who or how or where I will be," meaning don't think you can predict me. I am a God who is going to surprise you. One of the ways God surprises us is by letting a Jew or a Christian discover the trace of God's presence in a Buddhist monk or a Sikh tradition of hospitality or the graciousness of Hindu life. You know, don't think we can confine God into our categories. God is bigger than religion.

Rabbi Sacks: By being what only I can be, I give humanity what only I can give. It is my uniqueness that allows me to contribute something unique to the universal heritage of humankind. I sum it up, the Jewish imperative, very simply — and it has been like this since the days of Abraham — to be true to your faith and a blessing to others regardless of their faith.

Ms. Tippett:  And come back to this complicated notion of this dance between what is particular and what is universal. I mean you said that the Bible argues that universalism is the first step, not the last step, in the growth of moral imagination.
Rabbi Sacks: Surely.

Ms. Tippett:  But I think you're also saying that the most vibrant contribution to plurality, to civil society, in fact is having a vital strong particular identity. Of course, it depends on how it's expressed, but that that in fact is the best hope for the sake of what is universal.
Rabbi Sacks:  Yeah, yeah. I mean, listen, I can't say honestly at my extreme age that I am seriously into rap music. But there's a Jewish Hassidic rap singer called Matisyahu. You've come across him?

Ms. Tippett:  I have not.
Rabbi Sacks: He's a very Orthodox Jew with a big hat and his fringes hanging out and he's got millions of young fans, most of whom aren't Jewish. Now you can't be more particularistically Jewish than Matisyahu. He's so Jewish and everyone can relate to him, Jewish or non-Jewish, because you know what? That's a distinctive voice and I think that's, for instance, why people relate to the Dalai Lama because he's different from us. You know, when you really reach the very depth of particularity, that is where all of us can relate to him or her and that's the big paradox.

Ms. Tippett: And it's a gift, it's a gift.
Rabbi Sacks: : It's a gift, you know, and I don't know why it is. But, you know, it's just — an Isaiah comes along and he delivers his prophecies and they're so particular to that faith, that place, that time. Yet I call Isaiah the poet laureate of hope in you. You know, at the height of Martin Luther King's "I Have a Dream" speech, at the very height of it, there he is quoting verbatim two lines from Isaiah, Chapter 40, the King James translation. I can't remember it — I don't know it so well in English — but, you know, I have a dream that one day every valley will be yada, yada and every mountain yada yada and all flesh will see it together.
You know, I doubt whether Isaiah 27 centuries ago in the Middle East could envisage the one day, you know, black civil rights activists will be moved by his words. But it's the particularity of Isaiah that spoke to a Martin Luther King. That's how we are as a people, you know. I don't know why it is, how it is, but it's the authentic, the unique, the different that makes us feel enriched when we encounter it. And it's this bland, plastic, synthetic, universal can't-tell-one-brand-of-coffee-from-another-brand-of-coffee that makes life flat, uninteresting, and essentially uncreative.

--Excerpts from ..."Jonathan Sacks--The Dignity Of Difference" transcript at with Krista Tippett

Tuesday, June 3, 2014


(Broadcasted orginally on June 20, 2013)  
Please listen with agape and empathy.

"Gender defines us from the moment we’re born. But how is that related to the lifelong work of being at home 
in ourselves?  For as far back as Joy Ladin can remember, her body didn’t match her soul. 
We explore this question through her story of transition from male to female — in an orthodox 
Jewish world."
--Krista Tippett at
Please listen with agape and empathy.

Monday, June 2, 2014

"12 Negative Thoughts"

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#8 (...should read...)
"When you catch yourself feeling unhappy, [do] something..."

#11 (...should read...)
"All moments, good or bad, [won't] last forever."