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Thursday, May 29, 2014

An Epiphany (# 10)

Epiphany (# 10)

Both crime and our world's justice system are propelled by and rooted in the same, fear.

People commit crimes out of fear of not living up to some standard(s), call it honor, tradition, sometimes; at other times, fear of scarcity, psychosis (the basis for the fear, at times, is rooted in psychosis of some type), and at other times, a fear of fear itself, borne out of a patriarchal inheritance that forces most men to not be in touch with their emotions, thus not ever being able to feel fear without becoming the very thing they've learned, been taught to disassociate their masculinity from, and thus their humanity or empathetic muscles.

On the other hand, our world's justice system is totally reactionary, at the very least, and not at all redemptive. Out of a fear that people will commit crimes far too easily, like the Wild West, we have fashioned the hand of our laws strong and heavy, and most often indifferent and blinded by fears.

And the fear of the strong, heavy hand of our laws has not proven a good deterrent at all for those of us, who are fearful enough to commit crimes.

Fear will always sire more of itself, more fear.

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

"The Beloved Community"

Following comment was submitted by Jon Hubner at (Sat, 2011-02-26 15:09)

"Listening to Vincent Harding speaking of the beloved community touched me deeply.

I was reminded of when I worked at a very large state-run psychiatric facility. Each day there was a struggle. To daily witness another human being writhing on the floor in inexpressible agony, or waiting endlessly by the door for a phantom lover that would never come, was to daily have my heart broken. Slowly a choice was forming: close myself to their suffering, or feel their pain.

One day the answer was shown to me.
While at the geriatric unit, I was trying to comfort a patient who had become uncharacteristically terrified.
"Is this real?" She said fearfully.
I spoke consoling words to her, but they had no effect.
"Is this place haunted? Am I ghost? Help me! I am afraid!" She said with such pleading, that I can only picture a child lost in the dark uttering them.

"Here, this is for you. I've been saving it for a time like now." A patient said placing a partially knit piece of green yarn upon the crown of her head. "It will bring you good luck."
"You're doing great! You can make it!" Another elderly woman said resoundingly.
"Mummble-berrys, and the like, who dee-haw. The good ones, you know." Were the disjointed, but ever so tenderly spoken words of an older man.
And on, and on, the patients came one by one, forming a line to greet the confused woman. Yarn, hugs, and flowers were all imparted until the once fearful patient was crying. "I feel better now, it's going to be O.K. now," she said, looking up at all her friends.

As a group, those patients had endured homelessness, rape, emotional and physical abuses, all the while suffering under the crushing weight of mental illness. Yet, they gave what little they had. They gave their hearts away.
The beloved community."

--comment submitted by Jon Hubner at
(on Sat, 2011-02-26 15:09)

Here's the link:

A Writer's Pregnancy

A Writer's Pregnancy

Impregnated with ideas
she labored a few lines
till a fantastical world
midhusbanded he to creation
with cogent ideas intertwined.

Mondo's Aphorisms (p.6)

Mondo's Aphorisms (p.6)

It's the choice-, consequence-making ownership that changes behavior for the long-term; thus, one transcends the unwanted behavior, and routinized the wanted behavior.

Within your perceived "good" are seeds of "bad," and within your perceived "bad" are seeds of "good;" thus, in the end your life will reflect what you have chosen to cultivate.

Human life only exists in the interaction between human beings; therefore, if our interaction is unequal, imbalanced, and negative, then life itself is unbearable in some totally less-human ways.

Nothing is "wrong" in/with yourself or the other, but the perception of the beholder.

The perception of the beholder is always subject to change, and that change itself is subject to change.

Patriarchy is inherited homophobia, and must be transcended for us to enter the "beloved community."

Homophobia is the insidious fuel that propels patriarchy.

Patriarchy is homophobia dressed in women's clothes.

Patriarchy is homophobia, and homophobia is inherited patriarchy.

The insightful reason for the wherefore things go "awry" in one's life is always within one, if you look, again, with a child's eyes.

Since we are social animals, the seeds of one's "bad" or "good" intentions or actions will bear fruits exponentially.

Misogyny is misplaced, inherited homophobia.

Homophobia is misogyny by another name.

In the long run, it benefits none of us, human beings, or humanity, Herself as a whole, to act in bad faith consciously or unconsciously.

Patriarchy regresses humanity toward the "beloved community" (now that's an oxymoron for you!).

To satisfy an insatiable miseducation, one must read more misinformation to diseducate oneself.

Offer your life of good deeds to humanity, and in return no one will be able to appropriate any of your valuables.

Homophobia is subtle, insidious misogyny.

Stories shape, define, and redefine the human experience, thus humanity, Herself.

One, who finds himself, too often, trying to change the other, has never tried in truth to change himself from the inside-out.

Misandry is an insidious fear of misogyny.

Joy is non-measurable and immeasurable.

Therapy is a wonderful journey toward your most dynamic, authentic self.

Your struggles are precious gifts to humanity, so struggle and give back.

Money is a most jealous lover; if you cuckold her with a gigolo's irresponsibility, she will not kiss your hands with her opulent presence, ever.

Expectation is a beast as real as a rainbow, thus elusive.

If you are not at the stage where you've learned to have absolutely no expectation of the other, then try to practice lowering your expectation(s) to align with the other's stage of being.

Hollywood always makes sure of 2 things:  one, they do not surprise their audience; and two, their audience does not surprise it.

Partners, in an intimate relationship, break up for their individual self-interests no longer intersect at some comfortable point of mutual interests.

Be vulnerable enough to let the other see and know the "real" you, with all your fears and aspirations.

...and he, who, self-diagnoses, has a hubristic fool for a therapist.

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Like Flower To A Bee

Like Flower To A Bee

Like a heart is 
to pump blood made,
a bird to sing,
a lioness to hunt,

a kidney the body to purify,
suffering, joy to bring,
life to move toward
her mate's soul, death;

a flower to remind us 
of nature's eternal beauty;

Like flower to a bee,
You, Fab Fabie, are made
for me, Big Daddy,
and I, made for you,
in love, soulfully.

Sunday, May 4, 2014

To Commit To Misery Or To Commit To Happiness

To Commit To Misery Or To Commit To Happiness

Sometimes in an intimate relationship, one may have a commitment, but a commitment to what.  What is one committing to?

I believe one may be committing, sometimes, to living in mutual misery, instead of to living in mutual happiness with the other.

And one may use all kinds of reasons--one may call them excuses--to commit to an unhappy, dysfunctional relationship :  the children, economics, "love," family, culture, and tradition.

But staying in a dysfunctional relationship may hurt the children even more in the long run by exposing them to the constant daily stresses of a bad relationship.  The insight here is that there are no guarantees in life, and in the end one makes the best decision, after weighing in the pros and cons, possible given one's stage of life.  In other words, it's all about one's level of comfort to being in a relationship that might not be meeting one's personal needs for self-actualization.

Does one sacrifice oneself in a vain attempt to find "immortality" through our children, or face our own mortality by accepting the finiteness of life, and thus the realization that one should live fully in a real authentic way?