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Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Sharing Is Its Own Reward!

Sharing is beautifully its own reward!  To be Human is to share.  Humanity is, itself, sharing.

Thursday, July 25, 2013

Mondo's Aphorisms

Mondo's Aphorisms

Feeling superior or inferior to the other is the same complex.

It is less painful to fall from the third rung of the ladder than from the eleventh rung.

Fear of NOT wanting to feel, be inferior to the other, makes one, inadvertently, want/need to be superior to the other.

Seek to always make a clear distinction between fallible human systems and our noble Humanity.

Being responsible for another individual makes one realize that one's parents did their very best with our rearing.

Commitment and Empathy merge to become true Love.

Seeing oneself in the other makes one more Human.

Believing one is entitled to anything in life makes one less Human.

Fear of intimacy robs a man of half of his total amount of oxygen in his blood stream.

A low Emotional Intelligence Quotient subverts a man's Feminine side, leaving him unbalanced, halved.

An individual without a good Therapist is like a Self-explorer without her compass:  Her North is only her conjecture.

Pray daily to NEVER be envious of the other, for envy ebbs a grateful heart, thus making welcoming room for more life-negating thoughts.

Pain, discomfort opens the door to clarity of mind, faith, and healing.

Confusion is the legitimate child of an irresponsible modus vivendi.

Fearful thoughts, if not transmuted, will deteriorate into their better kins:  fearful acts.

Seek to always keep a strong sense of  who You are as an Individual during any intimate relationship, especially the Romantic kind:  Do NOT lose yourself in the other!  Never!

With Self-forgiveness, one begins the journey, opens the door to heal the heart.

Grave matters should be addressed with solemn body language and serious words.

One, who is unable to empathize with a perceived, imagined, or real weakness in the other, is projecting his own lack of Self-empathy.

When one understands, with practical insights, the true nature of our Human existence, all forms of hatred are self-hatred.

One should not use, ever, today's lens to look back into yesterday's choices to find fault with.

A consequence, in hindsight, only, may be wanted or intractable.

Consequences are inherently neither "good" or "bad," but dynamic in nature, always.

Cultivate, always, a lovely garden, for in so doing, one will harvest life-affirming thoughts, magnanimous deeds, and most of all, an honorable life.

Two Human Beings, who RESPECT, LIKE, and Love--in that order of importance--each other, will bring up, always, empathetic and emotionally-balanced citizens of our world.

Were all else to fail, an unwavering faith, in the nobility of our Human Nature, will bestow upon one a prograde outlook, and help one to transcend daily life-retrograde issues.

God gave one this body, created in His image, so pray that He may grant one the valor and self-respect to love it absolutely.

3 of the major long-term decisions one should seek therapy for:  Choosing a career, having a child, and getting married.

Rituals of any relationship--be it with God or with other humans--serve as glue to cultivate it always in good health.

Seek to never use a gradational lens which perceives the other as either "devil" or "saint."

One's harvest will always be bountiful, with a grateful heart.

The dynamic of Human Nature is always, more, in the gray areas.

Pain and discomfort is not particular to any one of us.

Resistance to the natural ebb and flow of our Human Experience always creates more life-retrograde issues.

Futile attempts to live in the tomorrow and/or future always breeds angst.

Romantic Love, when unseasoned, requires life's retrograde issues to grow exponentially.

We canonize and/or hadecize others, out of fear of NOT being able, so far, to reconcile our two opposite, incongruous, end-of-spectrum sides of our Human Nature.  (I might have just coined a word, hadecize, using the proper noun, from Greek Mythology, Hades; hopefully I am not being too hubristic.  Lol)

A priori, our Human Nature is all noble.

With practical insights into the true nature of our Being, our Human Nature is all noble, a posteriori.

Often one wants the other to change, only, when it profits one, ignoring that change is integral to our Being.

A Romantic relationship will last, only, if both make room for each other to be dynamic in their individuality.

With being a medium for the creative goddesses, one must accept being perceived by the other as eccentric.

One must find the forgotten, lost, and frightened self in a dysfunctional relationship, before being capable of leaving it absolutely in one's past.

Pray to, always, tend to one's individual garden, while in an intimate relationship with another human being.

Labor to always revel in the uniqueness of the other.

Live with Chance in your heart, always, and She will be your North Wind.

Guarantees in life are its negator and antithesis.

Plan to always change your plans, often, when least necessary,

Seek to always use responsibility, and NOT blame, as your antidote to life-negating issues.

Blaming the other or oneself is self-negating.

Responsibility opens the door which enables one to release intractable patterns.

Regret and blame, both, lives in the past, while responsibility lives in the present, as life is the now.

Regret and/or blame is the antithesis of responsibility.

Blame and/or regret belies the dynamic of life's experiences.

Regret and/or blame renders one stagnant, like dead water.

One's plans should always be malleable like the human brain.

Regret, irresponsibility, blame, all three, have a potent kinship.

Responsibility makes one mistress/master of one's life.

After a dysfunctional relationship has run its course, one will miss its routine, but not, actually, the other.

Accept to live always with inflexible life issues.

Lessons learned from past, intractable consequences will, always, be with one in the present.

The Universe will always reciprocate one's love.

One should NOT assign blame to the other, when a dysfunctional relationship has run its course, but each should take responsibility, as mistress/master of her/his life.

To experience pain and discomfort is all too human, so endeavor to find a well-grounded perspective, and gain insights into the true nature of our Being.

One, who lives with too much angst, shops a lot needlessly.

Looking for forever in any intimate relationship is for the poet, in his fancy.

One, only, gets a bird's eye view by standing on the shoulders of other Human Beings:  No one is self-sufficient.

Learn to recall, think of your intractable consequences as necessary and wanted, always.

Worry chases the real, Human world away.

One's body knows our Earth intimately.

Slow down, periodically, to allow the body to catch up to one's mentation, and synch-in.

Always point the finger of responsibility to Yourself.

As a child, one is capricious, an adult, stable and most retrograde to life's dynamism.

Standing by one's choices unconditionally, one gains insights into inflexible patterns, clearly, then releases them.

There is no relationship with more humane, intimate sharing than that of a good Therapist and her patient.

As a proof that Humanity is all noble, look no further than how a good Therapist counsels his patient.

Life and death share an everlasting love:  they have and will never meet.

Life chases death into old age, then death into the reverse.

Life and death courts each other:  both suffer from unrequited love.

The strings of the Human heart vibrates to life's major, minor keys in perfect harmony.

Waltz with your Life's Circumstances dexterously, for you have chosen Her out of many.

Love your Circumstances as if She were a Goddess incarnate.

Only after loaning the map to your ears, will a suitor's spoken words find their way to your heart.

Love calls Pain a very good friend, but Pain is Her nemesis.

Money has NO inherent value:  the value one assigns it is the root of some life-negating issues.

Endeavor to always be most intimate with your Choices.

Blame and/or guilt is the quagmire which cements one in a stage of life.

Angels have wings; mortals have lives.

To reciprocate God's Love, a man must respect and honor all women.

Live life, as if you had wings to fly, with a bird's eye view.

The Lover imbues her Loved with enchanting qualities, which may be reimagined to enervate the Loved.

Sunday, July 21, 2013

Feeling Superior= Equals =Feeling Inferior

Feeling Superior Equals Feeling Inferior

Feeling superior or inferior to the other is one and the same state of mind--same difference!  Feeling superior to the other makes one contemptuous of the other, and in that scornful frame of mind, the less-than-human lens, one uses, does NOT allow one to see, understand the common thread of our Humanity, and "our Humanity" is thee road to the humane, dynamic truth.  To see it as "my Humanity," or "their Humanity" is NOT to understand that we all create what Human Essence is in a most dynamic way.

We stereotype the poor as well as the rich; our beliefs, based or founded on generalizations or over-generalizations, that the poor are lazy, while the rich are hard-working are mere stereotypes passed down/on to our children or each other.  

We usually hear and believe that the materially rich are unfeeling, out-of-touch with the masses, since they live in an insular, opaque way.  By painting all of our materially rich with a broad stroke like that, we fail to see, perceive our common thread of Humanity in all of us, or them.

When, I, as a black man, fail to see our commonalities in a Caucasian brother or sister, then how do I explain the numerous Caucasian brothers and sisters who had marched, with the Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King, calling for us, ALL, to see our Humanity in all of us--to remind us to believe in the nobility of our Human Nature?  How do I, then, reconcile the way that the Rabbi Abraham Joshua Herschel "prayed with his legs," as he marched with the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, with my failing to see, understand my commonness with a Jewish brother or sister?

We must, ALL, be aware, mindful, and insightful of our propensity--all of us--to stereotype each other!  Only by recognizing ourselves--myself--in the other, can we--I-- embark on our--my-- journey of self-discovery, with empathy as our compass.

I believe in the nobility of our Human Nature. Fallible human systems, at times, may, do fail us, all, but NOT our Humanity!

I believe.

May God lead us, all, to new understanding, patience, and AGAPE!

Saturday, July 20, 2013

When One Gives...?

SHARING Is Not a Give-and-take

When one gives, the other naturally, appropriately may, should reciprocate by taking.  The reciprocal behavior/reaction to giving is taking, in other words.  One's giving should, in itself, be one's reward/punishment, according to one's lens(es) being used to create one's world.  In other words, giving's inherent consequence--be it intractable or otherwise--is taking.

Thus, do NOT expect the other to feel obligated to reciprocate in any way other than receiving your gift(s).  The other's receiving/taking is directly matching your feeling of superiority or inferiority--some of us do give only to those we feel, unnaturally, inferior to.

In order to become more Human, one must practice to SHARE with the other.  SHARING, on the other hand, is always its own reward!  Within the sharing of one's resources, material or otherwise, is the sweet reward of ABUNDANCE; one feels naturally, and appropriately GRATEFUL of one's lot in life.

I believe!

May God lead us, all, to grateful hearts, and minds, on our bountiful journey!

An Ineffable State

A Bountiful State

A flood of creativity
Streams through my veins,
Like electricity through a metal,
Illuminating my consciousness.

The light of my consciousness,
Like sunlight to plants,
Nourishes my Humanity
To an ineffable, bountiful state.

Friday, July 19, 2013

Our Two Sides...

Our Two Inner Selves

Our commonalities as Human Beings are most essential, while our differences are nonessential.

Once upon a time, a father told his young son, "There is a war of good versus evil raging on inside of me!  The good side is life-affirming, but the evil side is life-negating."  The son looks at his father almost in disbelief, but in awe, and astonished, then he asks his father, "Daddy, which side is winning your internal war?"  The father replies, then, conclusively, "Whichever side I am feeding!"

Thus I ask you, respectfully:  Are you empowering your internal life-affirming thoughts, or your life-negating ones?  I beg of you to reflect, and feed your life-affirming side for the sake of our noble Humanity.

When Nelson Mandela was asked by a young scholar, after Mandela had been released from prison, in South Africa, how was he able to survive 27 years of harsh imprisonment, he replied, "I believed!"

I believe in the nobility of our Human Nature, without hubris. 

I believe!

May God lead us to new understanding, patience, and agape!

Learning to Want With Unattachment: A Paradox

Learning to Want With Unattachment:  A Paradox

In a Romantic relationship, one should want only to be with the other.  Wanting the other person gives one the freedom or the appropriate state of mind to perceive, thus, staying or being in the relationship as a choice, which one has made, and is responsible for to monitor dynamically as a commitment, and NOT as a sacrifice, a need, or a have-to.

When one thinks or believes that one needs, or has to be with the other, then the state of mind one enters is one of sacrifice, where one gives or sacrifices oneself for the other; one loses, literally, oneself, to some or large degree, in the other, to the point of NOT having a self or individuality independent of the other.  Then, needless to say, that when or if the Romantic relationship were to reach its natural ending, and the other were to want, need to move on, one would NOT be able to extricate oneself from that entanglement, state of mind of physical/spiritual attachment to the other.  Again, it goes without saying that the reflective, intractable consequences of such negative state of mind would be most painful.

What one has to remember or gain insight of is that the other is ONLY special because one has bestowed the special qualities upon the other.  Those qualities that make the other special are NOT inherent in the other, for they only exist because one beholds her/him beautiful/handsome.  As David Hume cogently writes in "Moral and Political," "Beauty in things [or persons] exists merely in the mind which contemplates them ." Thus, the contemplative mind, itself, is the creator of that beauty; inherent in the beholder are the qualities that are bestowed upon the beauty or the other.  Thus, the contemplative mind has all the power, and not the other.

I am Mistress/Master of my fate.

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Epiphany #3

An Epiphany (#3)

Opining on the Zimmerman's case

Let Us remember to NOT react in fear, as in, "What if He were your own Son?", "He looks like my very own Son!", or the "If I had a Son, He would have looked like Trayvon Martin!"  But more to the point, when our life-negating emotions come up to the surface, let's NOT become the very fear itself, we rightly might have assigned responsibility for the unfortunate accident, which had taken the young man's life, in the first place.

Instead, let's all draw a clear line in the sand between our fallible human systems--we have thee best legal system in the world!--, in general,and our own Humanity, which is all-good and noble.

Also, we must remember, always, that we ALL want the very same basic things in life:  Respect, Love, Freedom within limits, of course, Happiness, Peace-of mind.  Thus, our commonalities, as Human Beings are the by-products of our Human Essence, which, we, with each other, and NOT in isolation like our irrational emotions, daily help to create.

May God/Goddess lead us all to new understanding, patience, and AGAPE!

Monday, July 15, 2013

On Our Need For AGAPE...

Our Need for Agape...

In light of the Jury's Verdict in the Zimmerman's case, I want to remind all of us to reflect on this:  "Emotions are irrational!"  When negative feelings and/or life-negating emotions come up to the conscious level, we must allow them to be, like the mother allows her crying baby to be, so to be able to transform them to life-affirming ones.  And that can only happen, if we are able to NOT become the life-negating emotions; we easily can succumb to our negative energy, if we fear it, as we try to flee from it.

We live in a country of laws, and we should make room always for a jury's verdict to stand, respectfully, despite our own difference of opinion; it is our civic duty as good citizens to do so, or lawlessness or chaos might prevail--God forbid!

We must always remember that it is our task, in order to become more Human, to treat each with agape.  Apropos, the Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King writes in "Loving Your Enemies," "The way to be integrated with yourself is to be secure that you meet every situation of life with an abounding love."  ...and "that abounding love" is agape!  I believe that we should all supplant the word, enemy, with life-teacher.  We are all learning from each other how to become more Human every nanosecond; thus, we are truly each other's teacher of life, as we go about daily creating Human Essence.  It is a dynamic process; always in flux; always in the process of becoming; the journey itself.

Friday, July 12, 2013

Picture My Love

Picture My Love

Picture my Love!
Hold her in your heart.
Take her, wholly, in your mind's eye.
Now breathe fast!

You were holding your breath.
Breathe again!
May your breath,
Give sweet life to her Image!

For one moment more,
Without her Image,
Framed, deliciously, in your imagination,
Too dreadful to live!

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Love Is...

Love Is...

Looking into your eyes,
As they spell Heaven,
With a capital "H;"
With each sparkle.

Kissing your lips,
As their warmth,
Like an enchantress,
Beguiles me to Blissfulness!